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  • House Call Doctor: A Leap Forward by Looking Backward

    House Call Doctor: A Leap Forward by Looking Backward

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    We can look back at many things with a smile. There's playing Johnny-on-the-Pony at the corner park, stoop ball, summer nights at Coney Island with your significant other, a great meal at a special cheap restaurant in Chinatown-but one of the most important has to do with the doctor . Remember the house call?

    Back in the day receiving a house call was the norm. No one had to trudge to the hospital emergency room or their doctor's office when they were sick. This was unheard of! All you did was make a phone call and the doctor would arrive at an agreed upon time with his or her magical black bag of medical tricks and the healing would commence. How would you like to travel back to those days, the days of the house call?

    Just think about the ease of a house call. When a person is ill the last thing they want to do is to schlep across town to see a doctor. No, we much rather be in our warm comfy bed with a cup of tea, a few slices of dry toast, and the television on. So many things have changed over the years it's time we look to the past for some modern conveniences. What type of doctor would travel to you these days?

    Well, there are some operations out there. A board-certified doctor will arrive at your home, your hotel (or your job) laden with that big black bag of medical magic to dispense medical advice and / or write a prescription. In other words they will do what it takes to nurse you back to health. And all from the comfort of your own home (hotel or job)!

    Is it easy? Sure it is. A personal visit from a board-certified doctor is awaiting you if you want one. In three easy steps you can receive a house call. Number one is to simply dial the doctor's office to explain your medical issues, needs and to arrange a convenient time for the visit. During this time your credit card number will be recorded but it will not be charged until your home visit is completed. Number two is waiting for a quick call back when you will decide if a doctor is needed or if an accredited physician's assistant will do. Number three is simply to sit back and wait for the doorbell to ring!

    It's just that easy. A house call doctor can diagnose and treat so many of the same medical problems that he does in his office. So why travel all the way to him when you can receive your own personal house call today? Some things are a no-brainer, this is one of them. If a home visit is in your budget than a home visit makes the most sense of all your options. Say goodbye to the days of spending hours in a waiting room.

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    Source by Slava Fuzayloff

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  • Can I Heal Myself?

    Can I Heal Myself?

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    At the heart of most energy healing modalities is the concept of healing ourselves. Is this what we were built to do, but what our encoding or life experiences would have us forget? Why is it that we can embrace the idea of going to another source for healing; be it with the use of pharmaceuticals or seeing a healthcare provider like a Medical Doctor, Chiropractor, or someone in alternative medicine such as an energy healers, massage therapist, herbalist, nutritionist and so on, yet grasping the idea that the ability to heal has always been within, seems to be a hard concept for our human logical mind to embrace.

    We have all been taught (trained) to call the doctor, our mother, our pastor, our therapist or our rabbi when we are sick in mind, body or spirit. But we seem to forget to call on our inner knowing or what I call our inner healer.

    Recently I had a very bad virus, the kind that lingers for days. While I was awake one night in a full blown war with my body, I began to think about self-healing. What came to me in my feverish/delusional state was that I have been looking at this whole self-healing thing from the wrong perspective. Kind of like from the outside in, instead of the inside out. My thoughts were; if our goal on earth is to remember who we truly are and to experience the lessons that go along with that remembering, what some refer to as an AWAKENING, then the path to do so reside outside of our human body. Enlightenment is the transcendence of our human bodies and the remembrance of our true nature which is light and love. So why is self-healing so important? The question becomes can we embrace the idea that we have everything within our being, not our body to heal and transcend.

    When we say look within, go within or refer to your inner knowing it is not a physical reference. It is a reflection within our knowing of our inherent perfection and magnificence. “Heal Others, Heal Yourself” is the opening of the portal that allows us to see that our body’s inflictions, our negative emotions and our so called disconnection from Source is not the way the truth and the light. When we accept that our physical bodies and our emotional bodies are merely an illusion of this world, something to look past, to transcend from, we begin to see that the healing begins with our connection to Source and our inherent Divinity. When we connect and discover this we begin to transcend the need for our physical bodies to be whole and perfect. Whole and perfect is who we are without the density of our physical and emotional body. This body is only a vehicle to navigate this dimension, to teach the lessons it has for us in this embodiment. “Heal Yourself” is remembering that we are not our body.

    These statements can sometimes lead to a misunderstanding. As if I was telling you to not see a physician, a medium, a pastor, a therapist, etc. for support. This is not at all what I am trying to convey. The lesson here is for us to begin to listen to our inner knowing. I believe that the Reconnective Healing Frequencies connects us to a place where we can allow ourselves to be lead to what is needed. To look within first and ask what is needed. (our inner knowing always knows) Try not to look outside ourselves by asking others what we need. When we know with inner conviction that we need to speak to our physician, medium, pastor, therapist, healer and then we follow that knowing, we now are fully engaged in the process. It is our knowing that will lead us there, now we will have ears and hearts to actually listen to what and how these supporters are guiding us to heal ourselves.

    In Reconnective Healing some will experience a spontaneous physical healing, but ALL will experience a return to balance, by remembering or reconnecting to the “IT” factor which we will name Energy, Light and Information from the Source of pure love.

    I just wrote a lot of fancy words, but most of all what I want you to know, what I want you to hear is attached below! Print this, cut it out, laminate it and put it in your back pocket, just in case life will have you forget who you truly are:

    Who Am I

    The Healer Within

    1. You are made of light… nothing more nothing less
    1. Within that light is energy and information. This energy light and information is who you are in your infinite connection to pure love.
    1. You are not your physical body or emotional body. They are just an illusion of this time and space. The body is something to look past or transcend from, using the lessons the body may bring.
    1. Enlightenment is the transcendence of our human bodies and the remembrance of our true nature which is light and love.
    1. You are love, not made of love, not experiencing love, not sharing love, not looking for love, YOU ARE LOVE.
    1. You are the voice within, the knowing which has no beginning, no end.
    1. You are a divine being, connected to your Source, the IT factor or what I call God.
    1. God is omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent, and omnibenevolent.
    1. The vastness of this Universe and Universes beyond cannot begin to corral the essence which you share with your Source. You are an infinite being connected to all.
    1. ‘Heal Yourself” is remembering that we are not our body. Healing yourself or self-healing is the allowance of your inner knowing to embrace and embody your divine and intrinsic perfection and magnificence.

    The frequencies of Reconnective Healing and Personal Reconnections reconnect you to the remembrance or knowing of these facts or as Ms. Jillian Fleer, Head of Insight and Development at The Reconnection says, the “Veracity” of who you are.

    Are you ready to embrace the VERACITY of who you are? Read Dr. Eric Pearl’s book “The Reconnection, Heal Others, Heal Yourself”, go online and visit The Reconnection web-site or you may want to call me or message me to further this conversation.

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    Source by Virginia Adams

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  • Why Can’t I Forget My Ex Wife? Help for Moving on After Divorce

    Why Can’t I Forget My Ex Wife? Help for Moving on After Divorce

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    It is 3 a.m. Silence echoes inside the empty house. You know you will not meet tomorrow’s deadline for that project at work, but you don’t care. All this seems so trivial. It’s been that way a year now. A veil has been covering your perception, your goals and your aspirations. Only this one phrase keeps repeating itself inside your mind: “Why Can’t I Forget my Ex Wife?” You keep wondering if there was anything you could have done to save this marriage. You cannot understand why you sink deeper and deeper into this vicious circle inside your mind, instead of getting over it. They say time heals, but it does not seem to be happening to you. Time cannot heal, unless you want it to.

    Healing from divorce for men is just as hard as it is for women, maybe even harder. The reason for this is that women express their emotions, but for men it’s not as easy. They suppress their feelings. They struggle to abide by the role imposed to them by society and this always backfires. The pain inside of them accumulates and it multiplies to the point that it becomes unbearable.

    1. Express Yourself

    This is the most important thing you need to do during and long after the divorce. The phrase “men do not cry” couldn’t be far from the truth. Men do cry, but they do so in solitude. Do not struggle to hold back your tears in the company of a dear friend.

    2. Communicate

    Talk about it for hours with your friends and relatives, if you feel the need to.

    3. Avoid By All Means Mutual Contacts

    Whatever you say will be more than likely transferred in a distorted version to your ex-wife and vice versa. This creates a never-ending gossiping circle, which completely destroys a man’s chances to recover after divorce.

    If contact with mutual friends and relatives is inevitable, demand that they do not talk to you about this matter.

    4. Get It Out Of Your System

    A day will come, when you are finally sick and tired of mourning. Gather all the pictures, letters and any other reminders and keep them in a safe place away from your sight. Stop going to places you went together. If you are the one who’s kept the house, move to a new house or even area.

    5. Avoid Rebound Relationships

    Most of the times, these relationships do not work. They slow down a man’s healing process after divorce and they end up hurting even more people.

    6. Take A Trip Alone

    Take a trip on your own to some remote, peaceful place with warm climate and tranquil water for swimming. It will help you relax, realize the beauty that still exists around you and give you the opportunity for introspection. All the pain you’ve gone through will be for nothing, if you do not learn from it.

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    Source by Larry J Milton

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  • Heal Your Life Or Cure it – The Difference Between Healing and Curing

    Heal Your Life Or Cure it – The Difference Between Healing and Curing

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    We often hear of prayers for successful healing and other stories of people who have had miraculous cures. Recently I learned a friend who'd had tumors in several places throughout his body had learned that the tumors were gone completely. His doctors were stunned and couldn't explain it.

    While that was very good news, it also may have demonstrated the power of healing prayers. My friend had asked our group to pray for his healing and we did. But of course, we can never be sure how much our prayers contributed to the disappearance of the tumors and how much his own wonderful attitude and philosophy of life and health was responsible for the miracle.

    While we prayed, treated, meditated, for healing, what we really wanted was a cure. There is a very big difference between curing and healing, although the lines between them often are blurred. When I pray and meditate for a loved one who has a problem, whether physical, emotional, spiritual, or otherwise, I start by asking for healing.

    To me, healing means reaching a point of wholeness and peace, no matter what the physical condition or situation may be. I believe it is possible to have a terminal illness, but to be healed though the illness eventually takes the life. On the other hand, to be cured means that the illness goes away or is "fixed."

    Sometimes a person who survives something as serious as cancer, then needs time to heal, even though he or she may have been cured, like my friend was cured of his tumors. Healing will mean taking time to think about what happened and to reach conclusions about life and death and to consider the lessons learned by the experience. While a cure may be found in a short period of time, healing can take a longer time but lead to a better quality of life.

    Healing is closure, but does not mean that the lessons learned are over or that more cannot be learned. Healing leads to personal and spiritual growth. Curing means that we get to live longer and to work on healing. I sometimes think that we spend a lifetime healing.

    While curing comes from an outside source, such as a wonder drug, healing always comes from the same source, from within. When a loved one is sick or dying, first we want a cure, so that we do not lose that one, but ultimately, we realize that death is inevitable and what we really all need in the end, is healing. From a place of wholeness we can face all of life's challenges.

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    Source by Wil Langford

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  • Advantages of Online Doctor Consultation

    Advantages of Online Doctor Consultation

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    What will you do when you feel ill or suffer from any medical ailment? Without any second thought you will set an appointment to go all the way to the doctor’s office to sit and wait to get treated. Does it sound time-consuming? It is a well known fact that this is an internet age, where almost all the things are done online. Yes, today you don’t need to go to any clinic to see a doctor because an array of fully qualified licensed doctors is available online with whom you could make online appointments.

    This service considerably plays an excellent role for those who pay too much care for basic medical issues such as athlete’s foot, bronchitis, sinusitis and many other simple illnesses. Using this service not just saves your time and money but also helps you to get acute medical issues treated. An online doctor is polite and friendly and encourages patients to ask questions about various health concerns and get their doubts clarified. Now, patients can stop making repeated visits to the doctor’s office for the treatment of acute simple conditions. The detailed consultation report and explanation helps the patients to understand clearly and work towards improving their health.

    Some of the benefits of online doctor consultation are listed below:

    • Alternatively, online medical consultation service is also known as “telemedicine service”. It serves as a great resource for those who have limited conveniences and who are too sick to leave the house to go to the clinic and visit the doctor. In this busy scheduled world, most of the people would be on the go and would be away from home. Therefore, they may find it difficult to fix an appointment with their desired specialists. Don’t worry! Now, you could schedule an appointment with your choice of specialists from the comfort of your home or any other places any time of the day.

    • All the patients are valuable and receive the same care as they would get from the clinics. The dedicated professionals with ready access to state-of-the art online medical services render high quality care for the needy patients.

    • Additionally, online medical consultations and prescriptions are available wherever you happen to have internet access and a computer or other internet-connecting device.

    Most of the patients suffering from minor medical conditions such as cold, ear infections, insomnia, rashes, flu, etc show negligence in getting a proper treatment and in visiting a doctor (since it is a time-consuming process). Therefore they tend to keep delaying the essential health check. But now, an online doctor consultation service will make it easier for them to get these diseases treated.

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    Source by Anitha Hari

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  • Cure Your Acne By Adopting a Vegan Diet

    Cure Your Acne By Adopting a Vegan Diet

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    If you are reading this article you are getting closer to finding the causes of your acne. I am glad that you might want to try to cure your acne by adopting a vegan diet.

    I tell you that simply going vegan might not be the entire answer you are looking for. The reason that I tell you this is because the term "Vegan" is a very general term that simply means that the food is free from animal products.

    Adopting a vegan diet that only consist of non toxic, non allergenic, and good for your specific genetics will definitely help to cure your acne. The thing is, is that there are many acne causing foods and ingredients that are vegan.

    To give you an example of things that are considered vegan, but that will cause your acne to get even worse will include, Table salt. hydrogenated oil. food additives, food colorings, and anything that your body is allergic to.

    Also one of the foods that makes me break out with acne is any kind of wheat product. Wheat gluten is known to cause many health problems. Wheat gluten is kind of like glue that holds things together in many vegan products in the store.

    Many vegan foods that resemble meat actually contain lots of wheat gluten. Also a very popular food chain that brags about being vegan and vegetarian and the name has something to do with veggies and being grilled or something (I am being vague about using their exact name as I don't want to directly bash them), they use a lot of gluten.

    So while myself and others have in the past adopted a vegan diet to try and cure acne have had success on a vegan diet. It was however a very specific vegan diet.

    White sugar is vegan, also wheat gluten. MSG and its many names (you might want to research all of the names of MSG) is also vegan but is not good for you at all. So people throw the Vegan word around thinking that it is a magical characteristic of a diet that healthy.

    This is where many vegans that are unhealthy go wrong. They are eating tons of vegan foods that are clogging them and making them sick. Bread can be very constipating and it contains wheat. Most people have a food allergy to wheat even if they don't make the connection between the bread they eat and their symptoms.

    I am almost positive that if you are reading this right now you are probably very frustrated with all the conflicting information on the web. The big food corporations pay "ghost writers" to write nonsense to promote the foods they are selling even if they know what they are selling might not be good for you.

    To avoid becoming brainwashed by the media, and to avoid what they are selling, why don't you make yourself a challenge. I challenge you to prepare almost all of the food and know what each and every ingredient that goes into your body is and what it is made of.

    I challenge you to write down every last thing that goes into your body. It isn't as hard as it seems if you try to eat whole foods. Eat tons of Romaine lettuce, carrots, almonds and other raw nuts (no peanuts) extra virgin olive oil. sea ​​salt, raw hone, olives, and other fruits and vegetables for a few weeks.

    This means no fast food. You see French fries are vegan. In my opinion looking at the acne and food connection is that they are very unhealthy and probably cause me to break out in acne. The reason is that french fries are deep fried in oil and the oil is damaged by heat. Also the oil is probably made from GMO ingredients. This topic is too broad to explain why it is not good for you.

    In short your body might perceive the oil as an allergen. Also the fries are also probably covered with table salt. Table salt is not good for acne.

    Also there is a very popular fast food chain (which is probably the most well known for giving away free toys in the meals of the kids and brainwashes the youth and makes them sick at such a young age that they never know health and what it feels like their entire life) that clearly admits that their french fries contain things that can cause cancer. I am not kidding you. We need to read the warning on the fries.

    Anyway, I don't want to get sidetracked, To help you to cure your acne and to be truthful, I want to let you know that adopting a vegan diet to cure acne is a good idea to try. It's just that you need to be very selective in designing your vegan diet.

    Simply being labeled "Vegan" does not make it healthy.

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    Source by Teddy Grandy

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  • How Does ENERGY HEALING Help You Feel Better, Relieve Pain, and Assist Humans and Animals to Heal?

    How Does ENERGY HEALING Help You Feel Better, Relieve Pain, and Assist Humans and Animals to Heal?

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    We all live in overlapping fields of energies. These fields includes your physical body, your auric field (which consists of 6 additional bodies), electromagnetic fields that emanate from your organs and other body parts, and the energies of everyone and everything around us, including the earth.

    Since everything is energy, including your consciousness, you might wonder how healing can ever happen without paying attention to the energy aspects of your bodies.

    What Is Energy Healing?

    Energy Healing is any healing method which helps restore and maintain the energy systems of your bodies by working directly with the energy of your bodies.

    The term “energy healing” is used today for what has also been called “hands-on healing”, “spiritual healing”, “psychic healing”, and even “energy medicine.”

    In energy healing, a wide variety of techniques can be used. Whatever techniques are used, they directly address the energetic levels of your bodies.

    While tools such as stones and crystals, acupuncture needles, pendulums, singing bowls, and others can be part of a healing session, many practitioners use only their hands and their intention to facilitate a healing.

    Clean, pure, love-filled energy (life force, prana, chi, ki) is made available to the bodies, while inappropriate energies are assisted to leave the bodies.

    To be healthy and in balance, your energy must be able to flow freely, smoothly, and harmoniously.

    What Can Disrupt the Energy of Your Bodies

    Infection, injury, toxins, stress, too much or too little of any substance are all examples of events than can disrupt your bodies’ energies.

    When you’re sick, it’s because the flow of energies has been disrupted, causing some areas to be jammed up with too much energy while others areas are depleted. The disruption can come from accidents, infections, emotional traumas, and many other stressful situations.

    Several things can happen during an energy healing session to restore the smooth flow of energies. Here are some common examples.

    • Disorganized and chaotic energy patterns become organized and harmonious.
    • Blocked energy flows are unblocked.
    • Sluggish energy flows are restored to normal speed.
    • Depleted energy areas are assisted to regain a normal, healthy level of energy.
    • Excesses of certain types of energy are reduced to normal.
    • Disconnections between the spirit and body parts are reconnected.
    • Communication breakdowns between body parts are restored.
    • Energy that doesn’t belong is helped to leave the body.
    • Repair the physical body’s etheric blueprint (template).
    • Repair, balance, and harmonize the chakras.

    Some examples of energies helped to leave are:

    • viruses, fungus, bacteria.
    • memory patterns of old injuries.
    • memory patterns of weapons from this or past lives.
    • emotions that haven’t been fully expressed.

    These are just a few examples of what energy healing can address.

    What Do Energy Healers Do?

    Energy Facilitators support the body’s natural healing abilities.

    Energy Healers facilitate the healing process, which is done by the bodies themselves. An Energy Healer is more accurately described as an Energy Facilitator. They do not actually heal the body. The body must heal itself.

    The body, when functioning optimally, knows how to heal itself and how to restore balance. It wants to be in balance and harmony and good health.

    What Are Some Benefits of Energy Healing?

    Here are some of the benefits you may experience:

    • Relief from physical/emotional pain and other symptoms.
    • Feeling increased relaxation and calm.
    • A reduction in your stress level.
    • Feeling empowered to take charge of your healing process.
    • A sense that your physical body is stronger or more able to cope with life’s challenges.
    • A sense of well-being, comfort, integration, and wholeness.
    • Feeling more at home in your body.
    • Feeling more energized and more playful.
    • Feeling more balanced and more grounded.
    • Improved appetite; greater control over unwanted habits.
    • Increased interest in life.
    • Increased immune system function.
    • Faster or more complete healing from illness, injuries, or surgery.
    • A feeling of greater alignment with your I Am Presence.
    • An opening to receive more Divine Love.
    • A sense of greater connections with the Divine or with your I Am Presence.
    • A feeling of greater alignment with your spiritual path.

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    Source by Nedda Wittels

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  • Can Hypnotherapy Cure Emetophobia?

    Can Hypnotherapy Cure Emetophobia?

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    Emetophobia is a learnt behavioral response and for many people it can be a very debilitating condition. Unfortunately it’s a condition that is often misunderstood by a large number of people, including many medical professionals.

    Emetophobia has elements of being both a phobia and an anxiety disorder. For many sufferers it’s something that they developed at a young again often in early childhood. It can develop from being sick themselves or from seeing someone else being sick, which understandably for a young child can be a very frightening experience.

    The fear can also develop from the reaction of other people around them. I have had a large number of clients that developed the fear not because how they reacted to being sick but because of how a close family member panicked in response to someone being sick.

    When we talk about curing Emetophobia what we are really talking about is overcoming the fear by changing how people perceive the situation. Many people would say that when the fear has gone they feel cured. In many cases hypnosis can be a very effective tool that enables people to overcome the fear of vomit.

    While it is true that some people can overcome the fear of being sick just from hypnotherapy treatment alone in some cases however the hypnotherapy is not enough by itself. For those people they will need to deliberately get used to doings things differently based on what the therapist tells them they need to do to achieve freedom from the fear.

    In the same way that if you go to a osteopath with a problem they may be able to correct the problem purely with what they do while you are on their treatment couch however in some cases that may not be enough by itself and in addition they will give you some form of therapeutic stretching or exercises to do.

    If you are an Emetophobic or a relative / friend of an Emetophobic the first important thing you need to know is that in the majority of cases with the appropriate treatment / therapy the fear can be either significantly reduced or in many cases completely overcome.

    The second thing you need to know is that while some people can overcome the fear relatively quickly for others it can take longer so you may need to be patient. No one therapy works for everyone in every situation. If the therapy / treatment you’re currently using isn’t working for you (you should be experiencing at least some improvement within a couple of appointments) then you may need to consider an alternative therapy route.

    Being cured doesn’t mean you have to like being sick or the find the sound / smell pleasant. Being sick can be very unpleasant but it is normal to find the smell, sound and idea of it disgusting. No one likes being sick but that doesn’t mean you have to be afraid of it. Being cured means getting the response back to a normal and appropriate perspective, just like anyone else that has a normal response to being sick or vomiting. So you can be free from the fear.

    Hypnotherapy has already helped many people to overcome fear of vomiting. You can overcome Emetophobia.

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    Source by Paul A Wright

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  • My Separated Husband Says I’m Smothering Him And I’m Not Sure How To Stop

    My Separated Husband Says I’m Smothering Him And I’m Not Sure How To Stop

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    As a wife who has been very reluctantly separated, I would argue that there is a natural and undeniable inclination to cling tightly to what you are afraid of losing. And when you are a wife who does not want to lose your marriage or your husband, then it’s very natural to cling a little more tightly. In some instances and with some husbands, this doesn’t matter. Some husbands do not mind the clinging.

    But when you are dealing with a husband who was demanding space and who seems to be distancing himself from his wife, it can matter – quite a bit, in fact. Many husbands push back against this type of clinging and distance themselves even more. They may use phrases like: “smothering,” “holding on too tight,” or “coming on too strong.”

    The wives hear what the husband is saying, but they also point out that their husband is expecting something that just isn’t natural. She might say: “last night, my husband told me something that I never ever expected him to say. He told me that I was smothering him. We have been separated for about three weeks – at his insistence. If I had my way, he would still be living at home. But as it is, he is staying with a male friend. He has been restless and unhappy for months. He finally told me that he needed some time away from our marriage. I immediately panicked and assumed that he wanted a divorce. He swore that he didn’t. But I am still not sure that I believe him. I just don’t understand why a middle aged man should need space from his marriage unless he is planning to end the marriage or break his vows. And that is why I feel that I need to be in touch with him every day and know what he is doing. But when I try to do this, he tells me that I am “smothering” him. I believe his exact words were something like: ‘I felt like I was being smothered at home and now I feel like I can’t escape even now that I am here. You have got to stop smothering me. I have got to be my own person.’ It’s almost like he is accusing me of acting like his parent – and I absolutely am not. I just care about him and I think that I have the right to know what is going on with him and with my marriage. I don’t think that our talking a couple of times per day is too much to ask. I don’t call that ‘smothering.’ Do you?”

    I am going to be honest because I honestly want to help you. And I want to help you because I have been in your shoes and, because I made so many similar mistakes that almost costs me my marriage, I learned a hard truth. And it is this: It really doesn’t matter if you or I wouldn’t call checking in “smothering.” Because if he perceives it as such, then he is going to react to that perception. And his reaction may be detrimental to what you really want. And isn’t that all that matters?

    Understand That Ideal End Game: I suspect that you what you really want is both for him to come back and for him to come back willingly – and not with his tail between his legs because you have worn him down. Believe me, I understand the strategy. I never consciously thought about it. But looking back now, I think I figured that if I could bug my husband enough or remind him of our marriage enough, he’d eventually get sick of the back and forth and come back home.

    Instead, he distanced himself from me even more. We’ve reconciled now. But he’s confided in me that there were times when he considered divorce because he felt that might be necessary to “escape” my constant contact.

    I’m not here to debate whether or not my husband legitimately needed space from me. He and I will probably never agree on that. But what does matter is that he thought that he did. And frankly, that is all that matters. Because these thoughts formed his actions. Whether his thinking was faulty or not, he was going to act on it. And this thought process made a huge difference in what happened in our marriage.

    I know that we wives like to think that if we just do or say the right thing, he will change his mind and not want space from us anymore. But frankly, this isn’t as likely as him just getting frustrated that you are not listening.

    If What You’ve Done Isn’t Working, Consider Trying Something New: For me, the better call was backing away. I tried initially just telling my husband that I was going to let him call me next time. This did work – some, at least. But there were times when he would not call and I would panic and then come on too strong. So I took some time off by putting literal miles between us by returning to my hometown for a while. This forced me to back away – because I didn’t have much of a choice.

    This didn’t feel ideal at the time. Honestly, it felt like giving up at that particular moment in time. But it did eventually make a positive difference. Eventually, my husband started reaching out to me. And as this started to work, I didn’t have to force myself quite as much anymore. I literally saw that it was working, so the struggle became much less because finally I was starting to see the tide turn. For this reason, I was more than willing to go along because I knew it was the better alternative.

    I am not suggesting that you need to do the same thing. That may not work for you. But I am suggesting that you ask yourself if backing away – even for just a little while – might be worth a try. You can always reverse course if it doesn’t work for you. But once you know for sure that what you’re doing isn’t working – and once your husband has literally told you in harsh words that he’s getting frustrated – then these are both good indications that you may want to change course, even if only for a little while. At the very least, maybe try a form of communication that he doesn’t find “smothering.” You may not technically be smothering, but if he thinks you are, then that is what matters.

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