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  • Grief And Loss Healing Actions – Not Unkept Promises

    Grief And Loss Healing Actions – Not Unkept Promises

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    When grief and loss smack you in the face – what do you do? There are five needed keys to help you heal your sorrow circumstance. It is vital to have a certain attitude and follow a proper beneficial path. The following five keys are essential enabling action solutions to help you reconcile your grieving, gain back your happiness – and again be engaged in a more fulfilling and wholesome life.

    Key #1 Do What You Say You Will Do

    “You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.”

    ~ Carl Jung

    There have been times in life for each of us when we have not done what we said we were going to do. In retrospect perhaps the reason we didn’t doesn’t matter. Yet, now, in times of horrendous grief what you say you are going to do really matters. What you are in your new-you-grief-loss-circumstance is determined by what you say you will do. Choose carefully.

    Key #2 Follow A Beneficial Path

    At first a grief healing path may appear to be fully and permanently detoured. As stifling grief and loss happenings encompass your life. Hope and joy can temporarily disappear. Yet, happiness and joy are within your grasp. There really is a blue sky behind every dark ominous cloud of sorrow. Unwanted circumstances cause you to wonder about life and the future. Sorrow and loss situations can cause you to search for understanding, strength and will. As you wonder and search for new understanding you will discover a new purpose, a helpful path. Life’s detours provide you with meaningful innovative potential assistance. A beneficial solution healing path is essential to your wellbeing.

    “The key to success, and to happiness, is being fully engaged in life – leading yourself with inspiration and committed action – setting your own fine and honorable example.”

    ~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie

    You can discover beneficial inspiration and an action path to follow. Every success experienced is dependent upon on your actions. Choose your path for hope and peace.

    Key #3 Don’t Make Excuses

    Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.

    ~ George Washington Carver

    Unwanted and annoying grief causes change. Often grief conditions can bring you feelings of hopelessness and uncertainty. Your healing journey is a grief reconciling expedition. Failing to take steps to disallow permanent mourning to remain can detour your healing efforts. An excuse only satisfies the one making an excuse.

    No excuses – seize the moment – your challenge is to grow by establishing new harmony and reconciling your sorrowful circumstance. Now is the time to discover a new fulfillment in living and loving your life. Growth requires you to use your inner most potential to find new purpose and happiness. Consider how you can grow emotionally and spiritually. What specific actions can you put in place? Can you be more diligent in your efforts? Recognize that personal grief can provide avenues to inspire and lift you. Make a list of 3 things you can implement into your daily activities to inspire more direction and hope. Decide how you will use those 3 things to grow in happiness and hope now! Begin today!

    Key #4 Make A Unwavering Commitment

    The words: “If It Is To Be It Is Up To Me” ring true to life and your success in meeting challenges. Once you make a personal unwavering commitment to take specific actions you will become aware of potential possibilities and solutions to heal your grieving. Beneficial solutions will appear. You can discover the essential wisdom, strength, and insights if you seek them. You will discover immediate resources to help you overcome your loss and sorrow.

    Key #5 Seek And Engage In All Beneficial Sources

    Many will seize each moment of possibilities and opportunities. They will live their life to the fullest. Why don’t you? Today can be your new day. You can gain transformative insights to help reconcile your grieving. Seek healing sources and engage in all solutions beneficial to you. You can heal your grief and have new peace and hope. You can survive and thrive after grief and loss.

    “When our days become dreary with low-hovering clouds of despair, and when our nights become darker than a thousand midnights, let us remember that… [God] is able to make a way out of no way, and transform dark yesterdays into bright tomorrows.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

    Don’t forget God as an additional inspiration and strength in healing your grief. For some – at the time of serious sorrow – the first place they turn is to their God. Others fail You can discover the essential wisdom, strength, and insights if you seek them. You will discover immediate resources to help you overcome your loss and sorrow. Commune with God nor do they seek additional inspiration and strength and help from their God.

    Today ponder deeply what you can do to make your life happier and more joyful. Write down five actions you can take to contribute to your well-being. Always take into consideration any limitations you may have. Then realize you have within your grasp the power to say: “This I am today; that I will be tomorrow. Joy and happiness is within my reach.” Embrace all positive available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions.

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    Source by Duane Marchant

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  • Can I Heal Myself?

    Can I Heal Myself?

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    At the heart of most energy healing modalities is the concept of healing ourselves. Is this what we were built to do, but what our encoding or life experiences would have us forget? Why is it that we can embrace the idea of going to another source for healing; be it with the use of pharmaceuticals or seeing a healthcare provider like a Medical Doctor, Chiropractor, or someone in alternative medicine such as an energy healers, massage therapist, herbalist, nutritionist and so on, yet grasping the idea that the ability to heal has always been within, seems to be a hard concept for our human logical mind to embrace.

    We have all been taught (trained) to call the doctor, our mother, our pastor, our therapist or our rabbi when we are sick in mind, body or spirit. But we seem to forget to call on our inner knowing or what I call our inner healer.

    Recently I had a very bad virus, the kind that lingers for days. While I was awake one night in a full blown war with my body, I began to think about self-healing. What came to me in my feverish/delusional state was that I have been looking at this whole self-healing thing from the wrong perspective. Kind of like from the outside in, instead of the inside out. My thoughts were; if our goal on earth is to remember who we truly are and to experience the lessons that go along with that remembering, what some refer to as an AWAKENING, then the path to do so reside outside of our human body. Enlightenment is the transcendence of our human bodies and the remembrance of our true nature which is light and love. So why is self-healing so important? The question becomes can we embrace the idea that we have everything within our being, not our body to heal and transcend.

    When we say look within, go within or refer to your inner knowing it is not a physical reference. It is a reflection within our knowing of our inherent perfection and magnificence. “Heal Others, Heal Yourself” is the opening of the portal that allows us to see that our body’s inflictions, our negative emotions and our so called disconnection from Source is not the way the truth and the light. When we accept that our physical bodies and our emotional bodies are merely an illusion of this world, something to look past, to transcend from, we begin to see that the healing begins with our connection to Source and our inherent Divinity. When we connect and discover this we begin to transcend the need for our physical bodies to be whole and perfect. Whole and perfect is who we are without the density of our physical and emotional body. This body is only a vehicle to navigate this dimension, to teach the lessons it has for us in this embodiment. “Heal Yourself” is remembering that we are not our body.

    These statements can sometimes lead to a misunderstanding. As if I was telling you to not see a physician, a medium, a pastor, a therapist, etc. for support. This is not at all what I am trying to convey. The lesson here is for us to begin to listen to our inner knowing. I believe that the Reconnective Healing Frequencies connects us to a place where we can allow ourselves to be lead to what is needed. To look within first and ask what is needed. (our inner knowing always knows) Try not to look outside ourselves by asking others what we need. When we know with inner conviction that we need to speak to our physician, medium, pastor, therapist, healer and then we follow that knowing, we now are fully engaged in the process. It is our knowing that will lead us there, now we will have ears and hearts to actually listen to what and how these supporters are guiding us to heal ourselves.

    In Reconnective Healing some will experience a spontaneous physical healing, but ALL will experience a return to balance, by remembering or reconnecting to the “IT” factor which we will name Energy, Light and Information from the Source of pure love.

    I just wrote a lot of fancy words, but most of all what I want you to know, what I want you to hear is attached below! Print this, cut it out, laminate it and put it in your back pocket, just in case life will have you forget who you truly are:

    Who Am I

    The Healer Within

    1. You are made of light… nothing more nothing less
    1. Within that light is energy and information. This energy light and information is who you are in your infinite connection to pure love.
    1. You are not your physical body or emotional body. They are just an illusion of this time and space. The body is something to look past or transcend from, using the lessons the body may bring.
    1. Enlightenment is the transcendence of our human bodies and the remembrance of our true nature which is light and love.
    1. You are love, not made of love, not experiencing love, not sharing love, not looking for love, YOU ARE LOVE.
    1. You are the voice within, the knowing which has no beginning, no end.
    1. You are a divine being, connected to your Source, the IT factor or what I call God.
    1. God is omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent, and omnibenevolent.
    1. The vastness of this Universe and Universes beyond cannot begin to corral the essence which you share with your Source. You are an infinite being connected to all.
    1. ‘Heal Yourself” is remembering that we are not our body. Healing yourself or self-healing is the allowance of your inner knowing to embrace and embody your divine and intrinsic perfection and magnificence.

    The frequencies of Reconnective Healing and Personal Reconnections reconnect you to the remembrance or knowing of these facts or as Ms. Jillian Fleer, Head of Insight and Development at The Reconnection says, the “Veracity” of who you are.

    Are you ready to embrace the VERACITY of who you are? Read Dr. Eric Pearl’s book “The Reconnection, Heal Others, Heal Yourself”, go online and visit The Reconnection web-site or you may want to call me or message me to further this conversation.

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    Source by Virginia Adams

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  • What is the Ultimate Lifestyle?

    What is the Ultimate Lifestyle?

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    Since the mission of this newsletter is to help you define,

    carve out, and live your own Ultimate Lifestyle, I figured I

    should devote some space to laying a proper foundation for

    doing that.

    Before you can hit a target, you need to know where it is!

    So, to begin, let’s answer the question:

    What is The Ultimate Lifestyle?

    First of all, it’s different for different people. There are

    no rules or formulas. For some people, it means a lot of

    money, lots of “stuff,” a fast-paced and “jet-set” sort of

    lifestyle. For others, it means a very simple, slow-paced

    life that focuses on service to others. And for others, it’s

    every possible scenario in between these two “extremes.”

    There’s no right or wrong lifestyle, or good or bad

    lifestyle.

    There’s just what works for you — and it will likely change

    over time. I know it has for me.

    No matter how you end up defining Ultimate Lifestyle for

    yourself, now and in the future, there are 8 components that

    must be considered:

    1) Income Streams

    To live your Ultimate Lifestyle, you must have income

    streams flowing that allow you to pay your bills and finance

    all the “extras” you prefer. To me, the ultimate target to

    shoot for in this arena is to have income streams flowing

    whether you “show up” for “work” or not, so you can choose

    what you want to show up for (even if it continues to be

    what you call “work” or a “job.”).

    That’s what I’ve been able to achieve by applying my

    Invisible Path/11th Element strategies combined with direct

    marketing on and off the Internet.

    Having income streams flowing whether you show up or now

    seems like “pie in the sky” to many people, but it’s

    actually very attainable in today’s world. You’ll learn more

    about how to do it in future issues.

    2) Emotions and Beliefs

    Many people fail to create their Ultimate Lifestyle because

    they have emotional blocks, issues, or beliefs (what I call

    “p.s’s.” or “master biography files”) that hold them back.

    Other people have produced extraordinary results and could

    live their Ultimate Lifestyle, but their blocks, issues or

    beliefs prevent them from doing it — or fully enjoying it.

    Therefore, living The Ultimate Lifestyle must include having

    access to resources and inner skills that allow you to

    uncover and remove, heal, or release any blocks, issues or

    beliefs that hold you back. You’ll learn more about how to

    do that in future issues.

    3) Fulfillment and Satisfaction

    Whether you have a 9-5 job and career, you’re a full-time

    mom, or whatever you do with your time, a big part of living

    The Ultimate Lifestyle means getting as much fulfillment and

    satisfaction from what you spend your time on as possible.

    Many people don’t ask for this, don’t focus on this, and

    therefore don’t get it. You must make it part of your

    intention and focus!

    4) Living Environment

    How and where do you want to live? In the mountains? In the

    big city? On the water? Multiple homes? Do you want to live

    in a big home or a small home? Is privacy or seeing

    beautiful scenery out your windows important to you? Do you

    like modern furnishings, antiques, or an eclectic mix?

    Living the Ultimate Lifestyle means asking these questions

    and having a home base that nourishes you at a very deep

    level. My family recently moved to Charlottesville, Virginia

    in pursuit of the nourishing living environment we craved —

    and we got it, even better than we expected!

    5) Relationships

    What good is having income streams, a healthy emotional

    life, empowering belief systems, a great living environment,

    and a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction from how you

    spend you time if you’re alone (and don’t want to be) or

    your relationships with significant others (parents,

    siblings, kids, associates, etc.) are a mess? Believe me, I

    know about this one from long personal experience (before

    meeting my wife, Cecily).

    Therefore, living The Ultimate Lifestyle must include having

    access to resources and inner skills that allow you to

    attract, build, and maintain healthy relationships.

    6) Health

    Again, what good is having income streams, a healthy

    emotional life, empowering belief systems, a great living

    environment, fulfillment and satisfaction, and great

    relationships if you have health problems that drag your

    quality of life into the gutter?

    Dr. Robert Lindberg says, “We spend most of our life gaining

    wealth and we then spend most of our wealth on gaining back

    our health.”

    Living The Ultimate Lifestyle means having access to

    knowledge, resources, and skills that allow you to get

    healthy, stay healthy, and quickly resolve difficulties if

    and when they arise. I discussed some of the resources I use

    for this in previous issues, and will continue to share them

    in future issues,

    7) Time

    You can have income streams, a healthy emotional life,

    empowering belief systems, a great living environment,

    fulfillment and satisfaction, great relationships and health

    and if you don’t have any time to do what you love, to

    follow your non-work passions, or to truly enjoy anything,

    what’s the point? I know many people who could absolutely be

    living their Ultimate Lifestyle, but they choose to work too

    much, to the detriment of their quality of life. That’s too

    bad — to have the choice and ability and not do it.

    8) Wealth Building, Management, and Responsibility

    The final component to living The Ultimate Lifestyle is

    having systems in place that allow you to use your income

    streams to create wealth (as you define it), manage it, grow

    it, protect it, structure your financial and business

    affairs for maximum efficiency and personal benefit, and

    find ways of contributing and giving back (if that’s

    important to you, which it is to me and my wife).

    I’ll be writing a follow up article, called “The fuel that drives the Ultimate Lifestyle” shortly.

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    Source by Bob Scheinfeld

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  • Nose Injuries – When There Is No Doctor

    Nose Injuries – When There Is No Doctor

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    Injuries to the nose are not uncommon; yet, when they happen, people tend to panic. Instead of letting the situations "lead you by the nose", follow these simple first-aid measures, and stay in control:

    Your nose is not merely an organ of smell. It's a filter, a temperature controller, a passageway and sometimes even an alarm system. It is closely connected with your eyes, mouth, ears and head, both cosmetically and physically. So, when it is injured, to treat it you've got to look beyond your nose.

    "In order to treat any injury to the nose, you must first understand the nature and extent of the injury," say ENT surgeons. "Basically, there are three kinds of injuries: those that involve the nose and the head; those that affect the nose and the face; those that pertain only to the nose. Only after the kind of injury has been ascertained can proper treatment or first aid follow. "

    The first two kinds of injuries are usually the result of a violent, perilous impact, like a fall from a great height, or a road accident. When the nose and the head are injured – and such cases are obvious even to a layman – the damage is serious and can occasionally be fatal. In all probability the victim will be unconscious and to render first aid would be impossible. Your only course of action is to rush the victim to a hospital and leave him in the hands of the doctors.

    If the head is not hurt, that is, if the injury is only to the front of the face, then check the extent of the damage. Any injury to the eye directly, or even to the area around the eye, will need a doctor's attention. You can try to control the bleeding of the nose, if there is any, but the person should be taken quickly to the hospital. Probably he will need the attention of the ENT surgeon and the ophthalmologist.

    Injury to the nose and to the area around it, that is, the sides and below, could mean damage to the sinuses and upper jaw. Ask the victim to make as if he is biting on something. Difficulty and pain in moving his mouth indicate probable fracture of the upper jaw. In this case, too, though you could try to control the bleeding from the nose, the victim needs medical attention. An ENT surgeon and a dental surgeon may have to work together to repair the damage. Therefore, such a case should be quickly taken to the hospital.

    The third type of injury is more commonplace. In this kind of injury, first aid can be given, but again, it will depend upon the cause and nature of the injury. Injuries to the nose can be broadly grouped as: external wounds; fractures; obstruction by foreign objects; bleeding from the nostrils.

    EXTERNAL INJURIES

    External injuries like abrasions, bruises, cuts and punctures can be treated as you do wounds. Clean the affected area, apply an antiseptic and bandage. Slight abrasions or cuts will heal with adequate care. Deep and extensive wounds should be shown to a doctor.

    Fractures of the nose are easily detectable from the distorted shape of the nose, the constant pain and swelling. Fractures have to be splinted and set right, which can only be done by an ENT specialist.

    Those with children will b familiar with the third type of nasal injury – that is, blockage of the passage due to insertion of foreign objects into the nose. "" Often, the child may not be aware that he has done something he shouldn't have, says ENT surgeon. "" So the object remains in the nose for days and is discovered only when infection sets in. then, either the parents notice that the child's nose is swelling, or the child complains of pain in the nose. "

    However, even if you know that the child has pushed something up his nose, don't try to extricate it yourself. You could push it in even further. Sometimes, lightly blowing the nose helps to dislodge the object. But if the object is edged, it may scrape or bruise the nose and bleeding may result. So it's safest to take the child to a doctor, preferably an ENT specialist, as he is better equipped to deal with the problem.

    NOSE BLEEDS

    Nosebleeds or epistaxis can occur due to a number of reasons: Sudden climatic changes; a rise in blood pressure; a traumatic injury; high fever.

    The air we breathe in has to be homogenised to the body temperature of 34 ° C before it reaches the lungs. The nose acts as a temperature controller. If the air is cold, the nose warms it; if the air is too warm, the nose cools it. In order to help it carry out its function, the nose is heavily lined with blood vessels. The supply of blood depends upon the difference in the body and atmospheric temperatures. When the temperature outside changes suddenly, as when we move from a warm climate to a cold place, or vice versa, the demands on the blood vessels can be extensive and, consequently, they are likely to rupture, resulting in a nosebleed.

    A rise in blood pressure forces the blood vessels to enlarge and sometimes even burst. Since the capillaries in the nose are fine, they rupture more easily. Thus a nosebleed could be a symptom of hypertension. Also, during plane flights, if cabin depressurisation takes place, the difference in air pressure outside the body and within affects the blood vessels and some passengers could experience bleeding from the nose.

    Any trauma inflicted on the nose – say, when you fall while running and hit your nose on the ground, or when a child is hit on the nose by a ball while playing – ruptures the blood vessels inside the nose. Often, in these cases, the bleeding may seem heavy, but if there is no fracture, it may not be grave. However, once you've stopped the bleeding, you should get the patient checked by the doctor.

    Sometimes the trauma can be light, as when a person digs in too hard to clean the nostrils. In that case, the bleeding stops spontaneously after a few minutes.

    A high fever may sometimes be accompanied by a nosebleed. Again, this is because of the nose having to adapt to the difference in temperatures of the body and the air outside. ENT surgeon says, "This is occasionally seen in typhoid cases where the temperature rises very high."

    When bleeding from the nose occurs, you should first prop up the patient. Don't let him lie flat. If you do that, the blood will rush back and enter the throat making him choke or cough, thus increasing the pressure on his blood vessels and forcing out more blood. "Sometimes the blood that is thus forced back goes into the stomach and the patient then vomits it out through the mouth," says ENT surgeon. "At such times, everyone panics because the patient has vomited blood. They don't realize he's merely throwing out what he has swallowed."

    Ideally the patient should be made to sit up; head bent over a bowl so that the blood can drip down from the nose. Pinch closed the nostrils, letting the patient breathe through his mouth. Often, this stops the bleeding. Or you could put an ice pack on the nose. To make the pack, put some crushed ice in a clean kerchief or cloth and pack it closely over the nose. Use crushed ice, not chunks, because it can be molded around the nose, and even pressure applied. If ice is not at hand, give the patient a freshly-cut onion, or crushed garlic pods, or ammonium bicarbonate, to smell. The strong odor will repulse his sense of smell, forcing the nostrils to contract, and this stops the bleeding.

    NOT SERIOUS

    Nosebleeds are generally not serious. "In a normal person, the bleeding stops on its own after about five minutes," says ENT surgeon. "That it lasts for a long time and that the flow is heavy are only impressions. What happens is that, in the absence of muscles in the nose, the tightly-packed blood vessels cannot contract. So the bleeding continues till clotting sets in. and that normally occurs in about five minutes. But if the bleeding does continue longer, don't panic. Pinch the nostrils or use an ice pack to stanch the flow, which will happen after a while provided there is no serious damage. even if the bleeding stops you should get the injury examined by an ENT specialist to preclude complications later. "

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    Source by Andy G

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  • Relief for a Sore Penis – Healing After Aggressive Sex

    Relief for a Sore Penis – Healing After Aggressive Sex

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    A good roll in the hay or an especially sensual round of solo action can lead men to unbelievable ecstasy, followed a glow of satisfaction and a sense of relaxation and well-being. However, it can also lead to soreness, aching and a lingering feeling of discomfort – not the takeaway most men are looking for from the experience. While a sore penis after sex is common, and in general nothing serious, knowing how to prevent the pain from happening, and how to relieve it when it does occur – can improve men’s overall penis health and even enhance the sensations they feel during the proceedings.

    What causes penis pain?

    Penis pain can occur for a number of reasons and can even be related to more than one of these factors:

    • Chafing – while the sliding, gliding and thrusting of sex feels tremendous in the moment, there is actually a lot of heat being generated by the friction. Most men won’t notice this when it is happening, unless things are particularly dry, but when the heat of the moment is over, this chafing can lead to red, raw-looking skin, or even the appearance of a rash. Over time, friction from intercourse or masturbation can cause the skin to overcompensate during healing, and a thicker layer of keratinized dermal tissue may be the result. Since this callus-like tissue can actually block pleasurable sensation, preventing it from occurring through regular moisturizing and use of a lube is highly recommended.
    • Irritation – the penis skin is fairly delicate, and exposure to a partner’s body fluids, as well as lubes, latex, or other substances which may come into play can cause the skin to become irritated. Redness, itching, burning and even swelling may ensue. Avoiding known irritants is important here, so if a reaction seems to occur any time a particular product is used, eliminating this from the process is a good idea.
    • Blunt force trauma or torsion – in a heated moment, it is natural to get overly enthusiastic, but abrupt moves can lead to sudden impact with a partner’s pelvic bone or with a sudden twist or turn that can cause penis pain and even rupture the penile tissue. Taking care during play sessions and avoiding sudden, forceful moves may take some of the excitement out of the process, but it can also prevent a world of hurt later on.

    How to relieve a sore penis

    When soreness and injuries do occur, pain relief may be the first thing on a man’s mind. In some cases, all that is needed is a little time off, but in others, some TLC at home can do the trick. Applying cold compresses (not too cold, or frostbite can be a real danger) or using an over-the-counter oral pain reliever may help to take the edge off while things heal. It is always a good idea to check with a doctor before trying any self-care techniques, however, especially in the case of sudden injury or for men who are being treated for other medical conditions.

    When professional help is needed

    If a penile injury is accompanied by a popping sound and/or sharp pain; if bruising or bleeding occurs; or if a man experiences an erection that does not dissipate after several hours, prompt medical attention is necessary to treat potentially serious issues.

    Extra support for a stressed, sore penis

    Aside from pain relief and waiting out the healing process, men can take some proactive steps, not only to promote healing, but also to prevent a recurrence of the problem:

    • First of all, using a lubricant – and a little bit of common sense – for future sessions can also help to prevent injuries from friction, accidental impact, or sudden bending or twisting.
    • Second, in order to heal properly, the penile tissues need to work harder than normal. Repairing damaged tissue requires essential nutrients that men can obtain through a penis vitamin cream. (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) that is fortified with vitamins and amino acids, as well as natural emollients for extra relief. After the healing process is complete, continuing to apply a quality penis health cream can help to reduce the degree of cellular damage that can result from rough treatment.

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    Source by John Dugan

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  • Why Can’t I Forget My Ex Wife? Help for Moving on After Divorce

    Why Can’t I Forget My Ex Wife? Help for Moving on After Divorce

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    It is 3 a.m. Silence echoes inside the empty house. You know you will not meet tomorrow’s deadline for that project at work, but you don’t care. All this seems so trivial. It’s been that way a year now. A veil has been covering your perception, your goals and your aspirations. Only this one phrase keeps repeating itself inside your mind: “Why Can’t I Forget my Ex Wife?” You keep wondering if there was anything you could have done to save this marriage. You cannot understand why you sink deeper and deeper into this vicious circle inside your mind, instead of getting over it. They say time heals, but it does not seem to be happening to you. Time cannot heal, unless you want it to.

    Healing from divorce for men is just as hard as it is for women, maybe even harder. The reason for this is that women express their emotions, but for men it’s not as easy. They suppress their feelings. They struggle to abide by the role imposed to them by society and this always backfires. The pain inside of them accumulates and it multiplies to the point that it becomes unbearable.

    1. Express Yourself

    This is the most important thing you need to do during and long after the divorce. The phrase “men do not cry” couldn’t be far from the truth. Men do cry, but they do so in solitude. Do not struggle to hold back your tears in the company of a dear friend.

    2. Communicate

    Talk about it for hours with your friends and relatives, if you feel the need to.

    3. Avoid By All Means Mutual Contacts

    Whatever you say will be more than likely transferred in a distorted version to your ex-wife and vice versa. This creates a never-ending gossiping circle, which completely destroys a man’s chances to recover after divorce.

    If contact with mutual friends and relatives is inevitable, demand that they do not talk to you about this matter.

    4. Get It Out Of Your System

    A day will come, when you are finally sick and tired of mourning. Gather all the pictures, letters and any other reminders and keep them in a safe place away from your sight. Stop going to places you went together. If you are the one who’s kept the house, move to a new house or even area.

    5. Avoid Rebound Relationships

    Most of the times, these relationships do not work. They slow down a man’s healing process after divorce and they end up hurting even more people.

    6. Take A Trip Alone

    Take a trip on your own to some remote, peaceful place with warm climate and tranquil water for swimming. It will help you relax, realize the beauty that still exists around you and give you the opportunity for introspection. All the pain you’ve gone through will be for nothing, if you do not learn from it.

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    Source by Larry J Milton

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  • Why Healing Requires Integrating Our Unconscious Experiences Into The Wholeness Of Our Being

    Why Healing Requires Integrating Our Unconscious Experiences Into The Wholeness Of Our Being

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    Nurture The Deepest Part Of Your Core Nature

    Healing involves integrating our fragmented parts into the entirety of our being. However, the paradox is: we are not broken but merely disassociated from our wholeness. The term healing denotes restoring what is not functioning as it is intended. When we are caught up in the distorted beliefs about ourselves, it leads to separation or what we consider being broken. In fact, it is merely being separated from the completeness of our true nature. Think in terms of a hologram where the whole is contained in every part. This was an idea espoused by the late theoretical physicist David Bohm who believed the universe is a solid and brilliant hologram. He recognized how each part of our physical reality contained information about the whole. Therefore, our thoughts, emotions, soul and physical body are composed of our soul nature.

    How does this idea appeal to you? Are you comfortable knowing whilst you were born whole and pure, through your beliefs, thoughts and experiences it leads to separation? I'm not suggesting it is entirely your fault because we are all bound to experience this. It is said, while our painful experiences are not our fault, healing the pain is our responsibility. Although there's an element of truth to it, we ought to remember there is nothing to heal other than to attend to our unconscious memories in order to return to wholeness. By attending to these aspects, we integrate our known sense of separateness. Release and Renew is a mantra I often repeat in my writing when I discuss healing and emotions. In doing so, we release that which is not conducive to the present moment. Similarly, we renew our commitment to nurture ourselves by connecting with our core emotions. The integration I speak of is an association with our soul nature, which at its essence is pure, whole and knows nothing of separateness or brokenness. It is the egoic mind which disconnects us from our spiritual self to create two identities ie the darkness and the light.

    How To Heal Your Fragmented Parts

    I am drawn to a passage by the South African author Michael Brown, who writes in The Presence Process : "I dropped my use of the word" heal "because of its connotation that something was wrong and had to be fixed. using the word "integrate," which to me meant there was a part of my experience that was unconscious- a part of my experience that I resisted, controlled, and sedated-which was asking to be incorporated into the whole.Whereas healing felt like I was excluding something from my experience, integration felt like I was embracing everything I experienced . " I believe Brown makes two important points here: we mustn't resist nor control the past, but perceive them as the whole of our life's experience. Second, integration means to embrace or at the very least acknowledge everything that happened to us. Perhaps not right away, but when we are ready to make peace with the past.

    What are your thoughts about this? I realize you may have questions related to your personal experiences. Whilst I am not present to answer them, I assure you trying to make sense of them consciously is a healing process rather than an integration process. It is what author Dr. Mario Martinez means when he writes in The MindBody Code: How to Change the Beliefs that Limit Your Health, Longevity, and Success : "The true agents of change are elevated cognitions and exalted emotions. These agents of change provide sustain transformation; in fact, they have triumphed over the greatest infamies and darkest periods in our human journey. " It does little good to dwell on why the past took place as it did. Instead, we ought to turn the tables and consider the following questions as a basis for self-enquiry. Instead of trying to make sense of the past which keeps us trapped replaying painful memories, we identify how the experiences served us.

    1. How can I use the past to facilitate my greater growth?
    2. In what ways can I use my emotional wounds to bring peace and love to the part of me that is pure and whole?
    3. How can I integrate my sense of separateness into the wholeness of my being?
    4. Whom do I need to become and let go of to achieve this inner state?

    Once we can perceive the pain of the past through the lens of: compassion, forgiveness, peace and love we heal our fragmented parts. It may involve deep exploration into ourselves with or without the guidance of a trained therapist. Considering this, I'd like you to spend the following week journaling your answers to the four questions above. Call it a remote coaching session if you like. Write what comes to mind even if it involves images or symbols. Similarly, pay attention to your dreams via the symbols that appear. Note how you feel within the dream and upon waking. Look for messages in your waking life in the form of people, places and situations that cause you unrest. This is your soul guiding you towards integration. Ultimately, to heal ourselves we must be willing to integrate the pain of the past, so healing happens naturally as nature intended it to.

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    Source by Tony Fahkry

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  • Words Can Help Heal – Sending a Pet Loss Card

    Words Can Help Heal – Sending a Pet Loss Card

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    Anyone that has ever owned a pet knows that no matter how small an animal is, they each have their very own personality. Pets appreciate you. They look forward to seeing you daily. They make you feel wanted and needed. They can get you out of a funk. It is no wonder that we get attached to our pets.

    Losing a pet is one of the hardest things that a pet owner will ever have to face. When someone loses a husband, a parent, or a child, we automatically think to send a card. We sometimes underestimate the importance of sending a pet loss card to a loved one. It is equally important to show you care by sending a heartfelt message. Simple words can mean so much to someone. It is comforting to a person who has lost a pet to know that their loved ones recognize their loss and respect their feelings of grief. The support of close friends and family during any loss can make the process a little easier to go through.

    There are many way to express sympathy in a pet loss card. Here are some tips when writing words of comfort in a pet loss card:

    1. Make sure to use your loved one’s pet name. Instead of saying “sorry about your dog”, say “sorry to hear about Max”.

    2. If you have a specific story that your loved one ever talked about, mention it. It shows that you cared about the life of the animal and that not only were you listening, you were thoughtful enough to remember it.

    3. Depending on your friend’s beliefs, mentioning the pet being in heaven can be comforting.

    4. A lot of the time, pet owners feel some sort of guilt for having to euthanize a pet. It is important to let them know what good pet owners they were. Remind your loved one how awesome they were to their pet, and all the special little things they did to make their pet feel loved and special.

    5. Offer your time. Mention that you are available any time to get a bite to eat, go out for coffee, or just listen. It helps not to be alone when you’re grieving. Although a lot of things probably aren’t exactly fun right away, doing things to keep your loved one’s mind off of the loss of her pet can help with the healing process.

    No matter what you choose to say, make it personal. Remember that this pet played a huge role in your loved one’s life, and that your words mean more than you might know.

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    Source by Lisa Falsetti

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  • Fractures & Sprains – When There Is No Doctor

    Fractures & Sprains – When There Is No Doctor

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    Oops it could happen anytime, anywhere, without advance warning, even to the fit, the active, and the healthy. A slip or a fall and – ouch – you’re landed (sometimes literally), with a fracture or a sprain. An expert orthopaedic surgeon outlines emergency procedures to help a victim until he can be got to a doctor.

    The basic mistake that people make in the handling of fractures and sprains is that both are given the wrong kind of importance. Sprains tend to be treated as a minor disability that time and home remedies will heal; fractures, on the other hand, generally result in the pressing of all panic buttons. Both approaches are faulty.

    “A neglected sprain could result in permanent instability of the joints which may require a major operation later,” warns orthopaedic surgeon. A sprain occurs when soft tissues such as ligaments, joint capsules, muscles and tendons are stretched beyond their limit, mainly as a result of lifting heavy weights, exercising in fits and starts or playing a strenuous game like badminton after a long interval.

    On the other hand, people over-play fractures. Because of the immediate and often unbearable pain they generate they are looked upon as a dire emergency and it is believed that if urgent treatment is not given, it will result in the permanent disability or loss of the limb. So, in sheer panic, the patient is rushed to the nearest doctor who, if inexperienced or incapable or plain mercenary, may perform an unnecessary operation “because it could develop into gangrene.” A corollary myth is that all fractures require surgery when in fact most fractures can be treated without an operation.

    When is it a fracture and when is it a sprain?

    When a person suffers a fracture, i.e. a break in the bone, he experiences a shooting pain, and the affected limb is incapacitated. In a sprain, the pain may not be so powerful. The exception is a spinal column sprain which could cause severe pain and result in a stiff back.

    In children, it’s usually the elbow and legs that suffer fractures whereas in adults, it’s the thigh, hip and spinal column. The parts most likely to suffer a sprain are the ankles (especially in women who wear high-heeled shoes), wrists, lower back and the neck.

    Don’t…

    “Till a definite diagnosis is made by a good orthopaedist, don’t give in to the temptation of resorting to a home remedy such as using a turmeric powder pack, it may only worsen the condition,” advises orthopaedic surgeon.

    And do’s…

    Both, sprains and fractures are best treated by lightly pressing an ice pack on the area to reduce the swelling and/or bleeding. Next, tie a firm bandage on the affected part, preferably reinforcing it with a handy splint like a foot-rule or a wad of newspapers or cardboard. The victim should be reassured and kept calm and made to rest while arrangements are made to take him to the doctor. Pain-killers may be given.

    However, if the accident occurs on the road or playground, the victim should be lifted by four to six persons, their bodies serving as cushions as far as possible and made to rest nearby. If the upper limbs or neck is injured, the victim can be helped to walk to a cab or other available transport. However, if it is the legs that are injured, he should be either carried or placed on a stretcher, if it’s available, all the time making sure he does not exert pressure on the affected limb.

    A child is less tolerant of pain and his agitated parents could alarm him further. Calmly reassure him with a drink until he can be got to medical attention. Tincture of iodine, or an antiseptic ointment or lotion could be used in case of an abrasion or cut.

    Any upper limb injury should be put in a sling (available at the chemist or you can make one at home).

    Making a sling

    A square metre of cloth (in an emergency a bedsheet or even a towel could do) cut diagonally across will make two slings. Support the hand by placing the widest angle pointing towards the elbow. The other two ends will go around the neck and are tied into a secure double knot at the nape.

    Head injuries

    Head injuries are usually caused by violent road accidents or by a fall from a height. This is a serious problem which requires quick action. The patient may become unconscious immediately or may gradually lose consciousness. If he is unconscious, do not let him lie flat on his back or he could choke if he swallows his saliva or blood (if he is bleeding in the mouth). Slowly turn him on to his side in ahead low position (without a pillow), so the secretions if any can flow out. Call the doctor or get an ambulance.

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    Source by Andy G

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  • Start Healing Your Grief & Sorrow

    Start Healing Your Grief & Sorrow

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    How do you start healing your grief and sorrow? What brings you joy when grief is your circumstance?

    “What are the proper grounds for joy? Is it circumstance which will determine the stature of my spirit?

    Ah, no. It is choice. It is always a choice – in the face of any event – for joy.”

    ~ Mary Anne Radmacher

    There are three steps you can choose to follow to start healing and find more joy:

    1-Make A Healing Choice

    Trying to Handle your tremendous grief and loss may result in a great deficiency in clarity, hope and joy. Many solutions may have passed through your mind. Also, you may have cried out to God. In due course you might have heard from Him. The message you could have received was: “I am not wanting to harm or punish you – but to help you.” God is just but sometimes men and life are unjust. Human unhappiness is ordinary life in its natural course. Each grieving experience is personal and unique. Do you want hope, happiness and wholeness again? If you do, you have a responsibility to keep going and try to find essential solutions to stop grieving and start healing. Otherwise grief is lasting, not reconciled and your life remains not rehabilitated forever. Forever is a long time!

    “You do have a power over your body, your life, your future. Call it prayer, spiritual healing, intention, or law of attraction, the power is there for you to access.” ~ Posted by Jonathan Huie

    Undiscovered, often never used before, perhaps not ever needed before now, is an inner power for which you can dig deeply of critical personal empowerment.

    “Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and cheer and give strength to the body and soul.”

    ~ John Muir

    Honor who you are. Gather strength from life’s thunder clouds. Dissolve grief sorrow and loss struggles one by one. Embrace and seek solitude in the arms of the spirit. How you face the trials of life is always a choice.

    2-Choose A Life Like A Box Of Chocolates

    “The movie character Forrest Gump describing life as being “like a box of chocolates,” is such a positive upbeat way of characterizing the uncertainty of life. I have no idea what life will give me next, but whatever it is, it will be sweet.”

    ~ the movie Forrest Gump

    Especially during times of immense grieving, you need to be alert and notice what you want might sneak in your back door unobserved.

    “Faith means living with uncertainty – feeling your way through life, letting your heart guide you like a lantern in the dark.”

    ~ Dan Millman

    Personally, I prefer dark chocolate with pecans in my box of life’s challenging uncertain journey. Looking for the sweetness in your healing uncertainty and letting your heart of hope be your lantern in the dark is essential.

    3-You Must Do

    “You must do the things you think you cannot do.”

    – Eleanor Roosevelt

    After you think you have done all you can do to stop grieving and start healing there is always more you can do. You must hunger for new beneficial solutions. Think about it – have you hungered and thirsted after key healing steps?

    “Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish into air.”

    ~ John Quincy Adams

    As you push forward with mighty thrusts of healing energy your abilities to reconcile your grief and loss will be enhanced greatly.

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    Source by Duane Marchant

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